Friday, November 7, 2014

Mindful Eating: Building Meaningful Relationships with Food


During a typical trip to Pinterest, you might see a meme telling you to “Keep calm and love your curves” countered with another one saying, “What you eat in private, you wear in public.” 

How about “Real men like curves, only dogs go for bones”? 

Okay, but “My body is a temple. Not a trash can.” 

“Sexy comes in all sizes.” 

“What if I told you, being 300 pounds doesn’t make you curvy, you’re just obese.” 

“Eat for the body you want, not the body you have.” 

Or my personal favorite: 

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I have found that after a national obesity epidemic coupled with tabloids filled with airbrushed models and erased flab, women across America are ganging up on each other, on men, and most importantly, on food. Yes, food has become our worst enemy—the adversary during a diet, the creator of fat, and the ultimate temptation. But I don’t think food is the problem; it’s the way we think about food. The solution to stressful or mindless eating is not dieting, but rather mindful eating, a method that focuses on training the body to choose what will satisfy and nourish it without establishing a right or wrong way of eating. Although mindful eating is more difficult to control and monitor than dieting at first, adopting it will not only provide immediate health benefits, but will also continue to benefit Americans for the rest of their lives.

What is mindfulness? The Center for Mindful Eating, a website dedicated to teaching this method and providing support for those who are interested in it, defines its principles:

· Mindfulness is deliberately paying attention, non-judgmentally, in the present moment.

· Mindfulness encompasses both internal processes and external environments.

· Mindfulness is being aware of your thoughts, emotions and physical sensations in the present moment.

· With practice, mindfulness cultivates the possibility of freeing yourself of reactive, habitual patterns of thinking, feeling and acting.

· Mindfulness promotes balance, choice, wisdom and acceptance of what is.

Learning and practicing the principles of mindful eating will put into perspective the difference between the restrictions of a diet and the freedom of feeling confident in your unique nutritional decisions. I encourage reading more from the website here and putting them to practice.

I experienced firsthand how eating can change from a stressful and addictive activity to a nourishing and peaceful one. Until a counselor pointed it out to me, I didn’t even realize that my relationship with food was so dysfunctional. When I talk about my relationship with food, I am referring to my thoughts and feelings towards the food around me and toward myself when I eat it. I became aware of the names I called myself when I overate, like “fatty” and “gross.” I realized that I was constantly aware of my stomach and how I thought everything I ate affected its size. I realized that I would turn to food in my emotions, and then feel guilty for it. By being aware of these things, I became aware of my emotional state and what my body really wanted for nourishment. These are things that a diet could not have provided me with because dieting is like giving a man a fish: if you give a man a diet, he’ll lose some weight; but if you teach a man mindfulness, he will be healthy for life.

Dr. Michelle May, physician, mindful eating expert, and recovered yo-yo dieter, wrote a book called Eat What You Love, Love What You Eat. In this book, she teaches how you can eat mindfully and, in turn, live vibrantly. Her advice comes in seven steps, all of which I’ve been able to experience through this program:

1. “Stop obsessing about food and start loving it.”

Every time I go on vacation with my family, we have one objective: find the best restaurants in the area and devour them. With both parents being great cooks, my family is especially fond of food. But I had harmful thoughts about it, so that when I binged on a great meal, I constantly thought of how it was harming me and of how I was overdoing it. This didn’t stop me from bingeing; it just attached more guilt to the experience. When I started mindful eating, my first assignment was to put the fork down in between every bite. That was it. When I started doing it, it seemed tedious, but I soon realized that before this assignment, I was wolfing down almost every meal. By doing this physical thing, I was able to really love and enjoy every morsel of my food. I actually tasted it more, and slowly brought awareness of what I was eating, and how much of it I really wanted and needed.

2. “Resolve mindless and emotional eating.”

Hi. My name is Sophie, and I’m a procrastinator. When I have something to get done, my body has a physical reaction in protest…and that reaction is walking to the pantry and distracting myself with chocolate chips, cereal, or peanut butter. After learning mindful eating, I knew I had to be mindful of this ritual and figure out why I was doing it. I wasn’t facing the problem. The same goes for emotional eating. Once I stopped and asked myself why I was munching on chocolate chips, I realized that I was distracting myself from a school paper, or I was feeling a little down on myself. Instead of utilizing food as a distractor, now I try to face my problems and get things done.

3. “Rediscover when, what, and how much to eat without restrictive rules.”

When I began learning this step, I kept a food log. I didn’t count calories or amounts; instead, I logged how I felt before and after the meal. I wrote down, on a number scale, how hungry I was before the meal and how full I was after. I also began writing down if the food was a good match for my body—if it made me feel energized, sluggish, satisfied, or unsettled. I began paying attention to how my body actually reacted towards different foods. For me, meals got smaller, but more nutritious. Without deciding, “I’m going to start eating healthy foods”, I ended up choosing more varieties of food. Usually, I prefer not to eat a lot of meat. But I discovered that as I added meat to my meals, I was more satisfied and didn’t snack as much on bread and candy. This step taught me independence and confidence when I ate my meals. I now have a good idea of what amounts of food are best for me, and the ingredients that I should be incorporating into my meals.

4. “Learn the truth about nutrition in clear and practical terms.”

I’m not a genius when it comes to nutrition. I know the basics: eat fruits, vegetables, grains, dairy, and protein; drink a lot of water; and exercise often. Yes, those are the very basics. But I’ve realized that this very basic knowledge of nutrition is not a bad start. The truth is that eating when you’re hungry, stopping when you’re full, and following a regular exercise schedule brings a person to a healthy weight and a healthy lifestyle. Learning more about nutrition is helpful and vital, but it starts with simplicity. Eating—a most basic need for human survival—is simple and instinctive. We can learn this from child rearing. In the article Parental influence on children’s food preferences and energy intake, researchers discuss ways to teach a child how to self-regulate—“to pay attention to one’s own physical and internal cues of hunger and satiety.” They conclude that when parents restrict their children’s diets too much, it can have a reverse effect and may even lead to obesity. Parents who are active during meals, but not restrictive, more often rear healthy children (Parental). Activeness during mealtime is a way to model mindfulness and awareness to children. Because this has a better effect on the health of children, we can conclude that it will have a better effect on training ourselves in nutrition.

5. “Stop using exercise as punishment for eating.”

I didn’t think that I did this, but after reading this short article by Dr. May, I realized that this is often my mindset. “If I eat X amount of food, I have to do X amount of exercise.” Have you ever done this? This turns the act of eating into something that needs to be punished, and exercise into the punishment. Exercise should be something we love—something fun! This past summer, I started running 5ks with my sister. We didn’t set any super crazy goals; we just made it fun, training on our own, and pushing each other during the races. There are other ways to make exercise a treat rather than a punishment. I also joined a yoga studio and made friends there. We motivate each other to go, and sometimes give each other rides. Competitive sports, gym memberships, zumba, workout videos—the list goes on. Of course listening to your body doesn’t just stop at eating; listening to your body and doing what it needs brings us to exercise.

6. “Experience the pleasure of eating the foods you love—without guilt or bingeing.”

I remember going to an incredible Italian restaurant near San Diego and eating the best dish of my life: cheese, carbs, and creamy vodka sauce—the whole enchilada (or ravioli, in this case). I know that before I understood my relationship with food, I would have eaten the entire plate and licked it clean. Then I would’ve hated myself, ordered dessert, and then hated myself again. No, once I understood that this food wasn’t “bad” and that I could stop eating when I was full, I enjoyed this meal completely and ate only half, taking the other half home and eating it for lunch the next day. I even had chocolate lava cake! No self-hatred. I was satisfied. Without restrictive rules like calorie counting or eliminating carbs, I discovered how much I could really enjoy a meal without the guilt AND without overeating.

7. “Develop powerful patterns of thinking to live the balanced, vibrant life you desire.”

I mentioned earlier that I used to call myself names when I was unhappy with the way I ate. Now, I’ve taught myself thoughts to counter the negative ones I get. These thoughts are never focused on what I should have done, and definitely not focused on starting over on Monday. They always bring me back to the present moment: “I may have eaten more than my body wanted, but I can stop now and eat again when I’m hungry.” This takes away the unhealthy guilt and punishment that I tend to put on myself, and I am able to help myself in the moment. This taught me the importance of being present.

Dr. May’s methods come with many success stories because mindfully eating goes beyond what dieting could ever do. It establishes a lifestyle change by developing understanding of your own body. People who discover mindful eating see patterns of restriction, punishment, and guilt in their diets and exchange it with the pleasure of eating.

Consultant Psychotherapist and author of the book, Mindfulness and Mental Health: Therapy, Theory and Science, Chris Mace acknowledges the weaknesses concerning mindfulness. He writes, “…a state of consciousness such as mindfulness is both silent and invisible when it is active, [which] is likely to complicate attempts to demonstrate independent clinical effects that can confidently be attributed to mindfulness and nothing else” (152). It is true that mindfulness is difficult to monitor and varies between people. Because of this, dieting seems to be the better life-changing, figure-trimming option. While mindfulness in eating is difficult to understand, it not only has physical benefits, but lifestyle benefits: learning mindfulness helps us to understand our relationship with food, with exercise, and with our own bodies.

Dieting has been tried. It has been tested, and the infomercials and advertisements offer inspiring success stories. I do not discount the people who have reached a goal weight or established a healthier lifestyle. They’re out there; but they are the minority. In 2007, UCLA researchers analyzed numerous studies that followed people on diets and found that for the short term, dieting may seem successful. However, in the long term, up to two-thirds of people on diets regain more weight than they initially lost within about five years (Wolpert). Because of this, dieting creates what some people call “yo-yo dieters”—people who lose weight during a diet, then gain it, and lose it again and gain it back. This can go on for a lifetime, and the effects are harmful. In this study, the researchers found that “Evidence suggests that repeatedly losing and gaining weight is linked to cardiovascular disease, stroke, diabetes and altered immunefunction” (Wopert). These findings suggest that, although dieting may seem like the easy-to-follow, step-by-step solution to a better you, it causes more problems without permanently keeping the weight off.

Dieting can also cause problems with young and physically healthy people. A well-intentioned emphasis in schools and home life on “healthy” eating can lead to a very dangerous mindset. In a study recorded in the Journal of School Health, researchers found that “healthy weight management behaviors, such as dietary and [physical activity] practices, are correlated with [disordered weight control behaviors] among boys and girls” (Wang). These are not extreme diets influencing children to develop eating disorders. They are, in fact, “healthy weight management behaviors.” Like food, these behaviors aren’t bad in and of themselves, but an unhealthy mindset leads to unhealthy thoughts and unhealthy actions. This unhealthy mindset about food, which tells the dieter that he or she must follow a certain health plan, can cause thoughts that lead to eating disorders.

Let’s take this on a more global scale. While the American people are known for the quantity of their food, the French people are known for the quality. Julia Child, “The French Chef,” showcased that very French obsession with cooking and eating when she introduced and popularized French cuisine in the States. The artical, "Broad Themes of Difference between French and Americans in Attitudes to Food and Other Life Domains: Personal Versus Communal Values, Quantity Versus Quality, and Comforts Versus Joys", compares the eating habits of the two cultures and finds that, indeed, obesity and heart disease are lower in France than in the United States. Yet, the French “spend more time eating daily than any other country” (Rozin). In other words, they spend more time with each meal. It is all about the way the French think about food. The researchers found that compared to Americans, the French may eat less food, but they enjoy it more. The article states, “These findings indicate that there are certain cultural values and practices that allow the French to separate food and the pleasure of eating from the drive to be slim” (Rozin). As a country, the French people do not limit what they eat according to how much weight they want to lose; instead, they treat themselves with nourishing food, enjoy it, and avoid the guilt and stress that comes with both overeating and dieting. In the chart below, twenty high-income countries were ranked according to obesity. While the United States was ranked number one, France is number twenty.


Because this method has changed the way I think about food, and because it has worked in others’ lives, and in an entire culture, I believe that it can help our country’s food dilemma. Evaluating and improving my relationship with food by understanding and listening to my body changed my life in a small but significant way. Yes, I still overeat every once in a while. But when I do, I don’t fail a diet or punish myself with more “bad food.” Instead, I come back to the basics: my body. If we understand our own bodies, they will be a rock to fall back on. Society can push and pull, but your body is a perfect machine. I know that this is not an easy place to arrive at, and that’s why we may rely on diets and labels. But I believe that if we, as citizens of the United States, can stop focusing on “good food” and “bad food,” body image, and dieting, and start being mindful of how we feel and what we need, we will be able to trust our bodies, which will naturally lead us to a friendly relationship with food. Let’s be mindful eaters and love our nourishing food and our miraculous bodies.



Works Cited 

“Countries Compared by Health: Obesity. International Statistics at Nationmaster.com”, OECD Health Data 2005. Web. 7 Dec. 2014.

“Eat Mindfully, Live Vibrantly.” Am I Hungry? 2014. Web. 25 Nov. 2014. <http://amihungry.com/marketplace/eat-what-you-love-love-what-you-eat/>.

Mace, Chris. "Mindfulness in Psychotherapy: An Introduction." Advances in Psychiatric Treatment 13.2 (2007): 147-54. Web. 6 Nov. 2014.

May, Michelle. “Don’t exercise to punish yourself for eating.” Am I Hungry? Web. 7 Dec. 2014.

Rozin, P., A. K. Remick, and C. Fischler. "Broad Themes of Difference between French and Americans in Attitudes to Food and Other Life Domains: Personal Versus Communal Values, Quantity Versus Quality, and Comforts Versus Joys." Frontiers in Psychology 2 (2011): 177. Web. 6 Nov. 2014.

“Parental influence on children’s food preferences and energy intake.” Food Today. 20 Sept. 2012. Web. 7 Dec. 2014.
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Wang, Monica L., et al. "Dietary and Physical Activity Factors Related to Eating Disorder Symptoms among Middle School Youth." Journal of School Health 83.1 (2013): 14-20. Web. 6 Nov. 2014.

Wolpert, Stuart. “Dieting Does Not Work, UCLA Researchers Report.” UCLA Newsroom: Science and Technology (2007). Web. 6 Nov. 2014. <http://newsroom.ucla.edu/releases/Dieting-Does-Not-Work-UCLA-Researchers-7832>.

Tuesday, March 19, 2013

Family: We Are One

There's something absolutely marvelous about the structure of the Gospel...it is one...giant...beautiful...FAMILY.

The Church is Mom.

Can you guess who Dad is?

It's our Savior, Jesus Christ.

When they got married, the Church took her husband's name upon herself, making her the Church of Jesus Christ.

Then the children of God are baptized, taking Christ's name upon them, making him the Father of their souls.

And they get to be born again every week as they partake of the sacrament.

Everyone has a role in the family. The Church nurtures, teaches, counsels, motivates, encourages, feeds, comforts, and blesses her children. Jesus Christ presides, provides, and protects. His role and our role as his children in the gospel are outlined in 3 Nephi 27:13-21.

Sometimes there's confusion with the difference between the Church and the Gospel. I can't take credit for this comparison, but someone in my Book of Mormon class said that the Church is like a lantern and the Gospel is like the light. What a beautiful analogy demonstrating the purity and good new of the Gospel held, protected, and proclaimed by the structure of the Church.

That is the wonderful thing about this giant family. The Gospel is beautiful, and it contains important ordinances and principles that will be forever true. But the Church makes it possible for the Gospel to bless us on earth. It's somewhere for us to go. It nurtures us and counsels us. It helps us become all that we can and should be.

What a blessing it is to be able to be a part of this family.

Tuesday, March 12, 2013

He Perceives


Sometimes I wish I were a little more perceptive. Knowing exactly how other people are feeling could be so useful. I would never offend, hurt, or discourage.

I know that I’m most perceptive to what someone is feeling when I know them really well. I think that’s why my mom can so easily read my mind. She knows when something’s wrong because she knows me.

A teacher is so much more capable of instructing when they can perceive how a student is confused. They have to know them well in order to individualize the lesson. Sometimes the lesson is focused on the classroom’s needs, and other times it is focused on each person’s needs.

In 3 Nephi, Jesus Christ is instructing the Nephites in the Americas about a year after His death. In chapter 15, verse 2, it says, “And it came to pass that when Jesus had said these words he perceived that there were some among them who marveled, and wondered what he would concerning the law of Moses…” Jesus Christ then explains that the law of Moses had been fulfilled, and He gives them a new law. But imagine the confusion that would have followed had He not perceived their wonder.

What a beautiful thing it is to know that, although we may not be able to perceive everything about everyone, even ourselves, God does. He knows us enough to be patient with us, and to individualize our instruction on earth. Were it not for a loving Father in Heaven and personal revelation, we would be doomed to wander around in someone else’s shoes. But He knows that we are here to make something of ourselves, and He has provided a way for every single one of us.

Saturday, February 2, 2013

A Firm Mind and a Soft Heart


On page 353 of the Book of Mormon, Helaman uses the word “firm” three times to describe his army of 2,060 warriors. In verse 27 (in Alma chapter 57), Helaman says, “Now this was the faith of these of whom I have spoken; they are young, and their minds are firm, and they do put their trust in God continually.”

Now, the fathers of these very warriors had buried their weapons of war years before, making a covenant with God that they would no longer fight. Their sons, Helaman’s army, took up arms to defend their people, never having touched a weapon in their lives.

The king of the men who buried their weapons said to them, “And behold, I thank my great God that he has given us a portion of his Spirit to soften our hearts…” (Alma 24:8).

What is the difference between having a firm mind and a soft heart, and how are we to have both?

I believe that having a soft heart is remaining open to the Spirit. It is to be teachable, understanding, and thoughtful. A soft heart welcomes the seed of faith into our lives. Once we have faith, we make our minds firm, but keep a soft heart, because we know we are imperfect, and we must always learn and be open to the Spirit. However, a firm mind preserves our standards and faith. It is how we live, being an example of what we believe in.

Having a firm mind and a soft heart is extremely helpful to me when I have to make an important decision. I have been trying to decide what I am supposed to do with my life for the next six months: when I should go to school, where I should live and work, and if I should serve an LDS mission. I have made these decisions by exploring my options (prayerfully), making decisions with a firm mind, and asking in prayer if I have made the right decision with a soft heart. Sometimes, answers seem unclear, but given time with that soft heart, they reveal themselves, and I can go forward with a firm mind.

Tuesday, January 29, 2013

What Makes You Happy?


“But behold there never was a happier time among the people of Nephi, since the days of Nephi, than in the days of Moroni…” (Alma 50:23)

Moroni was a strong Nephite leader during the great wars between the Nephites and the Lamanite—awful wars full of hatred and death. Yet, somehow, it was during these great wars that the Nephites were happiest. This begs the question: What makes you happy?

Is it the place you live, the food you eat, or the people you’re with? Is it the weather? The time of day?

My happy memories have all been at different times and places, and with different people. Sometimes, I have been in a very pleasing environment, and felt blue. Sometimes, I’ve been through a lot of stress, and felt joy.

I remember lazy summer days, sleeping in until noon, and beautiful weather outside. I would feel miserable all day, when there was no reason to be sad. Other days, when I had someplace to go and something to do, I’d feel so much more content with myself, and I was much more pleasant to be around.

I think it all boils down to personal righteousness. If God is pleased with what we are doing, His sweet joy is passed on to us through the Spirit. If we have a Christ-like attitude toward ourselves and other people, it is so much easier to feel happy.

That doesn’t necessarily mean we can’t feel pain and sorrow. It simply means that our external circumstances do not determine our happiness. The way we deal with them does.



And...since you're already happy from all the good things you've been doing, prepare to be delighted! Here's a singing alpaca :)


Wednesday, January 23, 2013

A Hospital for Sinners


One thing that I've realized is that living the gospel isn't hard; living the gospel in this world is hard. I've heard the argument many times that sometimes it's harder for people to live the gospel when they grow up in a primarily LDS (Mormon) community. In a way, that's very true, though everyone's experience is different. In junior high and high school, I often wondered, as have many other kids, "If we belong to the same religion, why are our standards different?" It is easy to lower your standards this way.

But something I have to remind myself is, I have many strengths and many faults, and everyone is different. Rather than being a people who have gained testimonies and keep the commandments, we are a people working toward these things. Or in other words:

"The church is not a museum for saints but a hospital for sinners." ~Morton T. Kelsey

In the Book of Mormon, Alma 39-42 teaches this principle over and over again. In these chapters, Alma teaches his son, who has committed very serious sins, about the Atonement and the Plan of Salvation. It is the most hopeful message for every one of us who's done wrong. And the most beautiful part of the story is, like his father Alma, Corianton becomes a faithful missionary and a very good man after repenting of his sins.

Part of having faith in Christ is having faith that He can help us and others out of our worst times. Experiencing imperfection is the only way that we are able to become perfect.

Tuesday, January 15, 2013

Who? Me?

One of my favorite discoveries in life is finding out what makes me different from other people. What did I acquire before my birth that will stay with me after my death? What traits have I developed through my experiences that make me unique?

I realize that this is a rather selfish thought, but I believe that the more we learn about ourselves, the better we treat other people. If we know what annoys us, what excites us, or how we typically react in a situation, we can better express ourselves to other people without misunderstandings, or impulsive confrontations that we later regret and must mend. And even these experiences help us confront ourselves and figure out how we can become a better "me."

Sometimes I wonder if, after everyone is dead, and we're all living in heaven together--perfect--will we all be the same? That's when getting to know myself becomes more meaningful. I know that there is definite good and definite bad, and individuality is not an excuse for sin. But real individuality aids us to do good in a special way. Our way.

Well, I think one trait that I was blessed with is faith. And although religion is probably the most important aspect of my life that faith affects, it's not the only one. For example, I believed in Santa until I was...older than most :) I prayed for my beanie babies to come to life (this was a long time ago). I loved (and still love) fairies, and I used to spend a lot of time in my mom and dad's garden, knowing the little folk were close by. These examples may sound silly, but they define me, and teach me about myself. My faith (almost gullibility), has helped me in relationships. It's easy for me to expect only the best from other people, and although that has occasionally led to disappointment, most of the time, it helps me to be open to people without making judgments.

I'm not perfect in this area, but I'm very grateful that faith comes relatively easy to me. My Book of Mormon teacher taught this principle from Alma chapter 30: "Science sees, then believes. Faith believes, then sees." Yes, science is useful, but sometimes our eyes are deceptive because of our incomplete knowledge. Although it looks like the stars, sun, and moon orbit earth from our perspective, we have found that earth rotates around its axis and orbits the sun, making it look like the heavens are circling around us. This is an eternal truth that our eyes cannot teach us. We are given eternal truths that we must have faith in, in order to see with clarity and improve our perspective. Through our faith, we can not only come to know the Savior, but come to know ourselves.